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Discover How Self-love Might Be Your Missing Key To Success.
By Lynette Chartier
What does self-love have to do with finding the missing key to success in all areas of your life? Everything.

It is safe to say that most adults today have been raised to believe that self-love is conceited and arrogant. That is just not true. Simply check out the self-help and psychology sections of your local bookstore.

Self-love is about having a healthy respect for one-self and accepting your self unconditionally. It is about nurturing your mind, body and soul in order to be, do and have what you desire.

Love yourself, for if you don't, how can you expect anybody else to love you?

If you do not truly love yourself with all of your current qualities and flaws, and if you lack acceptance towards any part of yourself, it becomes difficult to really accelerate your success in that particular area. The reason being that at some subconscious level, issues of worthiness, issues of guilt and fear, issues of deserving the health, wealth, love and happiness will come up, and this will block you, whether you are aware of this or not.

Let me remind you again, that you are not broken. Nothing needs fixing. Yes, we can all improve our current qualities and traits but we are not broken.

We need to accept what is rather than resisting what is, because what you resist about yourself persists. Whatever you choose to resist in your life will persist!

So for example, if you look at yourself in the mirror and you reject your current body weight, you will have a hard time treating your body like you should and therefore losing the weight permanently.

In this scenario, it is in the energy of truly accepting your body that real change or transformation can occur. Once you accept your body weight then you will be able to make weight loss permanent.

The transformation can occur as you work on yourself because when you accept yourself as is, you will have finally dropped all judgment against yourself.

“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.”

In dropping the judgment, the negative mind chatter will start to slow down and eventually cease. This will make you feel differently. When you feel differently about yourself, you will be taking different actions and you will see different results.

So go ahead, stand in front of the mirror and look yourself in the eyes. Ask yourself," What am I finally ready to accept about myself that I have been rejecting? Where am I harshly judging myself?" Awareness is the first step in the change process.

When we judge our self by making negative comments such as: "I am not good enough..." "I can't do that..." " I am not smart enough..." we cause further pain and anxiety to our self.

We frequently believe that it is others who cause us the pain when in reality it is our own thoughts repeated over and over again that cause the pain. You can learn to control and reprogram your thoughts and therefore eliminate the anxiety and fear that you feel.

You may subconsciously be thinking that by judging yourself first that you are in fact protecting yourself from being judged by others. Perhaps you feel that by judging yourself first, if others then judge you, it will not hurt as much. That is erroneous thinking. By judging yourself over and over again you are the perpetrator of your own pain.

You are also responsible for the meaning you attach to the words others voice to you. Are you aware that any negative comments from others to you are about their own stuff and not yours? Do not take things so personally.

When you love yourself, you know who you are, you are solid in what you want, and

you know what you can give to others. If you feel you have to get love from others than you will act in a way as to not jeopardize that relationship. You will not feel free to say what needs to be said openly and honestly in a kind compassionate manner. You will end up not challenging spouses, kids, and co-workers to become all they can be. What you will end up with are manipulative relationships and much resentment will arise.

“You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being who you are, your simple presence can make others happy.”

Throughout my teaching career, I frequently witnessed how children responded much better to sincere encouragement than to any other type of comment. The same applies to you as an adult. Self-criticism keeps you stuck and keeps you from moving forward.

Can you now begin to see that when you accept and love yourself unconditionally you will then also be able to accept and love others for where they are?

Imagine a world where people have self-love and accept themselves and others....

May I suggest that you take some quiet time to reflect and ask yourself the following questions: " On a scale of: I do not love myself at all - all the way up to - I love myself lots, how much do I currently love myself?" Next," What are the comments that I am continuously telling myself?"

If negativity is a form of addiction for you, it may take you longer to reprogram your thoughts and words.

I did mention the word "continuously" in the above question, because the process of gaining self awareness, and personal growth on your way to success, is ongoing.

We are never done or finished with growing and learning. New experiences will bring about new challenges and issues. In fact, you will either choose to be learning and growing till the day you leave this physical world or else you will choose to be among the walking dead.

Personally through reprogramming my thoughts and my comments to myself, I have been able to enrich my relationships with my husband and kids; I now earn money following my passion; I have attracted like-minded people into my life, and gone from taking 4 months to make $13,000.00 net profits to making that in one day with my home business.

I know for a fact that the effort of continuously reprogramming my thoughts and words to self is well worth it. For many, the missing key to success is porving to be self-love.